Mistakes can cause frustration for your child, but they can also be used to teach your child to process frustration in a healthy way. It will be hard, but you have to let them make mistakes and deal with their frustration on their own before you intervene. If you always do the hard work for them, they will always turn to others for help and one day those people will not be at arm’s reach. Here are some tips for facilitating growth from your child’s frustration.
Encourage the expression of emotions
Tell your child that it is okay to feel frustrated. If you try and ban the emotion, they are just going to become more frustrated.
All kids need breaks, but kids who have learning disabilities need them more often. Frustration is an emotion that goes hand in hand with disorders like dyslexia– they are simply unavoidable. Taking breaks will allow your child to reset and try again with a clear mind.
Being silly with your child will take the pressure off them and lessen their frustration. Having fun will take their mind off the daunting task at hand.
Play board games
Board games are a great way to teach patience, sitting still and taking turns while still being in the form of a game. They will be learning how to deal with frustration without even knowing it.
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Dyslexia is a frustrating and confusing disorder for children to deal with during the formative school years. They may develop some confidence issues, issues that should not be solidified by his or her parent. A parent’s job is to encourage a child to do their best, not to highlight what they do wrong.
That being said, don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t worry about menial tasks that they do not complete with ease, their job is to focus on their reading and spelling skills, not their coloring skills. Examples of tasks you should leave alone are erasing pencil markings completely, using scissors correctly and coloring inside the lines.
These tasks may seem like they are important in elementary school, but you know that they won’t matter much in the real world– and they will figure it out when they need those skills. Chances are, you will be correcting your child more than you would an average student; so be mindful not to overwhelm them with instruction.
That being said, the way you go about corrections is very important to your child’s educational career. Here are some helpful replacements for phrases you may feel you need to use.
- “This is easy” —> “I know you can do this”
- “Get it together and just learn to do it” —-> “Let’s take a brain break and try again in a few minutes”
- “You are not applying yourself” —-> “Can you explain your process to me?”
- “Try harder” —-> “Take your time, I’m proud of your effort”
- “You knew it yesterday” —-> “Let’s think about how we did this yesterday”
Though your intentions may be coming from a place of love, you still have to be careful how you talk to your child when helping them with their homework. You may forget what you say by the next day, but your child will likely carry it with them to their next tasks.
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